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Ok... Where to even begin...

Hmmm... Shoulda known this, but hey I'm real and honest, so just assume *ass* that others are who the portray themselves to be as well...

I found out today that someone who is my friend on here was not who he *she* claimed to be.. I was friends with this person for a long time... *She* was my confidant and friend... I loved her dearly and trusted her...

I found out that this person pretended to be female to gain my trust and attention.. How should I feel about this.. Fooled, betrayed, flattered...? Loved, even? All of us on EP should be careful with who we confide in and not to accept people so readily at face value... This has been a learning experience for me... I still love both of these people, but am having a really hard time wrapping my brain around the situation..

Any thoughts are kindly appreciated...

Posted by CaliGirl3 at 16:31 on May 14th, 2009 at 4:31PM
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CaliGirl3	Posted on 04:38PM on May 14th, 2009 Thank girly.... As I am for you... Tend to forget to throw up the caution barriers here... ((((big squeezy hugs back at ya))))
CaliGirl3	Posted on 04:44PM on May 14th, 2009 I am sooo sorry to hear that... hugs It's a first for me... A long time coming I guess.. Yes it is a learning experience and luckily can walk away with it.. Still love him though, besides the betrayal...
destry	Posted on 05:09PM on May 14th, 2009 Yikes! What a horrible betrayal of trust! I am sorry you had to go through it. I hate having to have this wall up when it comes to trust...but you just never known when something will come along and mess with your mind. Every time it happens the wall builds up more, which is truly unfortunate.
CaliGirl3	Posted on 05:14PM on May 14th, 2009 Yes it does... Indescribably so... Thank you sooo much.. My friends here mean the world to me... (((((big squeezy hugs)))) and that is the truth... Promise...
CaliGirl3	Posted on 05:24PM on May 14th, 2009 destry.. It is real and true... He says he loves me and has been inlove with me since day one.. I do love him, but am not sure how to handle this situation... A long time in the making, I guess.. I dunno.. AFB... Thank you... I would never turn my back on my friends here... You all mean the world to me.. Yes my trust is an issue now, but I refuse to change who I am... I am just me.. Pure and simple...
dedre	Posted on 05:27PM on May 14th, 2009 Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear that hon. There are some awfully confused, misplaced people here sometimes, eh? I know I haven't really chatted with you in a bit, but hug?
CaliGirl3	Posted on 05:33PM on May 14th, 2009 dedre... Have missed ya... I classify you as one of my real and true friends.. Love hearin' from ya.. and no worries, I always bounce back.. Our experiences, for real, make us stronger and just a little more resilient... (((((big squeezy hugs)))))
CaliGirl3	Posted on 05:50PM on May 14th, 2009 Girl.... Me too!!! Would love that... :) Mac... You better start pullin' out the credentials... Lmao... ;)
silentvoices	Posted on 11:49PM on May 14th, 2009 Friends.. lol They are rare.. just like diamonds.. i think if some one cheat us despite our trust and care and feelings that we have for her/him, its not our loss , in end he/she will be loser , he / she will be lose our trust, care and love and true feelings that he/she will never find again .. love urself only
CaliGirl3	Posted on 11:55PM on May 14th, 2009 SV... I am learning the true meaning of this.... How do I hold out my hand again in full faith??? I do love who I am.. At least I can say that I am true and genuine.. I value you and the rest that have proven to be the real deal... hugs Muah!!!!
CaliGirl3	Posted on 09:44AM on May 15th, 2009 PBR....Unfortunately I can say that this a current experience.. Actually in the here and now.. Maybe you are a little more cautious than I have been.. We live and we learn... I guess that's how the cookie crumbles... It is the net after all, so I shouldn't be surprised... It's just amazing to what extent someone is willing to go to talk and to be close to somebody.. I dunno how to feel about this..
MichaelMalek	Posted on 05:19PM on Jun 1st, 2009 Did you confront this person? What did they say about it?
CaliGirl3	Posted on 05:30PM on Jun 1st, 2009 Yes i did... The only reason I found out is because he confessed to me... He said he did it to get close to me...
Coyotegray	Posted on 05:35PM on Jun 1st, 2009 Freindship can not exist without honesty. You can limit the extent of the honesty/intimacy to fit your comfort zone - but may not lie. A small lie is bad - but to make up an entire persona and trick someone who believes you are their "friend" - yuk! I know you say that you still care for this person - and I admire you for your compassion - but, to me, the rape of trust is the hardest rape of all.
CaliGirl3	Posted on 05:47PM on Jun 1st, 2009 I thought so too Coyote... ((hugs)) adventureman... But to truly think that way is to cheat those of us who are entirely real on here..
sharpTresHombre	Posted on 06:26PM on Jun 1st, 2009 Anything I can Do ?....
lonesomeloser66	Posted on 06:47PM on Jun 1st, 2009 That's a tough one there. They did decieve you to gain your trust and that's not a good thing. How can you trust someone who has lied to you that way. On the other hand there is this annomous thing that is necessary for some to be truthful. I would have to know more about it before I could say one way or the other. I can understand both sides but I do know you and you deserve better then that. I agree that you have to be careful who you befriend on here or anywhere on the internet. It's a shame too because here I'm more honest then I have been anywhere. I would have to think hard about this one. If they was your friend then you should continue being friends, but if they was so they could get information on you, to win your confidence then it sounds like they have alternative motofies. It's a tough one for sure!
CaliGirl3	Posted on 12:17PM on Jun 3rd, 2009 hth13... What can you do??? Just be honest and be yourself, not what you think others may like... hugs Lonesome... Yes it is a tough one, for sure.. Yes I believe you to be the real deal.. lol I appreciate and value that.. I will share the details with you... But I am with him now and we are workin' on things...
mr4553	Posted on 12:28PM on Jun 3rd, 2009 Was he (supposed to be she) trying to get something from you? I never understood the lying that goes on here. I thought the point of the anonymity was to have pure honesty. I am sorry you got hurt by it, kid
CaliGirl3	Posted on 01:21PM on Jun 3rd, 2009 Mr... Not really.. I guess.. Just my friendship and to get closer to me.. He says he fell for me.. That is why he came up with the extra persona.. Too some how come out as his self.. Yes, I too thought the point of ep was to be able to be purely honest and to be able to yer true self.. At least that is how I see it.. You too, it seems... and thanx.. ((big hugs))
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